Saturday, July 31, 2010

My Summer Song 2010

This artist I love. Truely love. His music has been part of my up-bringing. My grandmother would have her beer in one hand and him playing loud on the radio as she would dance around the house to his music. I can tell when she danced she traveled someplace else for that time being. And she missed my grandpa, my fatheres real birth father before he was murdered when my father was a little boy. My grandmother was a well know dancer back in her days. She had men drool over here, and her enchanting dance moves. I miss her. R.I.P Ramona Viera Medina 

Thursday, July 22, 2010

A moment with God.

Riding to the airport to pick up my aunt, looking out the window this is what I see. I had to rush look for a camera  since I could not find my personal camera I had to result to my blackberry curve. But a camera on my blackberry I must say the quality of the photo taken is remarkable. Just look at the contrast and the lighting. It's perfect. Kismet; it was meant to be. And I swear I saw God right at this moment. The warm breeze flowing threw my short short pixie hair cut and the rays of the sun that was setting kissing my face. It was a beautiful moment. A moment with God.

jesiah william miranda;my nephew

The love of my life, the start in my sky. He is getting bigger everyday , and learning more and more. He gives pow-pow, he shakes his head and says no, he says hi and by, he puts up one finger when you ask him how old he is, he claps his hands, he gives high 5 and gives besos. I love you baby bear.

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Some Summer Looks

Bucket List 2010-2011

So there are alot of things I want to get done from the rest of this year to next. I decided to make a bucket list. List all the things I want to accomplish or try. I mean seriously because life is so short and our time here on earth is never promised. I always say that and will continue to say that. Despite lifes trials and tribulations there is always sunshine after the storm. I refuse to speak negative out into the universe only positive. Life should be enjoyed as much as possible. Spending my vacation here with my family in Florida has helped me to realize the importance of building a relationship with them. Family is important, they are my backbone. Being over has also helped me to realize to stop stressing so much. Your always going to have an issue in life, your always going to have bills, your always going to have a moment where things seem tough but you got to smile, let go and let God and enjoy life. 
So here below I create my Bucket List.

  1. excercise every other day early morning
  2. make sure to have a balanced breakfast
  3. lose a total of 40 pounds and keep it off
  4. write at least 3 blog entries every week
  5. try to eat talapia fish *gags* lol
  6. start a scrapbook
  7. write a book
  8. go a whole day with out saying "oh em gee"
  9. re-do my bedroom
  10. purchase a new laptop
  11. every week purchase a new M.A.C product and write a review
  12. read 20 books
  13. read the entire bible
  14. practice my spanish
  15. host a charity ball 
  16. be in a theater show
  17. begin Revolution Ladies Night again
  18. weekend getaway trip
  19. learn to cook a live lobster (o_0)
  20. learn to dance the hustle
  21. finish my web-based girls organization
  22. finish my clothing line launch it
  23. take dance classes
  24. finish my Associates Degree in Human Services
  25. take family portraits
  26. do a random act of kindness every day
  27. donate clothes to The Salvation Army
  28. Food Drive
  29. Help the Elderly
  30. Start my own garden
  31. Volunteer at a Hospital
  32. go on another cruise
  33. go camping
  34. apologize to someone I may have hurt
  35. forgive those who have wronged me
  36. more prayer time
  37. get over my fear of the dark
  38. try to help someones wish come true
  39. go to the beach at night and watch the sunrise
  40. get my permit/liscense
     -Eventually I will continue to add more on my list with time

    Saturday, July 17, 2010

    Four Different Types of Abuse

                                               HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE

    As I have shared several times depending on how comfortable I feel, I am a survivor (not a victim) of abuse.  To simply place or identify myself as a victim I am giving my attacker the upper-hand and power of my life. I am a Revolutionary Lady a member of Divas in Charge member.  I take control of my life, I control my destiny. I am a survivor of sexual, emotional and physical abuse. Many times the first thing people ask if it was by my father. And I answer "Hell to the No!" because my father was/is a fantastic man. Never did he mistreat me at one point in my life, I owe him everything. Everything he has done has been for his family, he is a self-less man that puts his children and wife first (before God). But I will say it was done by a family member, someone my family knew and by an ex boyfriend. I can be bitter and angry every time I look back and resent men as well as life. But....I do not. I went threw that for a reason. And I strongly and truely believe deep down in my heart it was to help other girls/women cope and get threw their situations. Its one thing to sit down and speak with a therapist , personally I don't always feel it helps. I mean do you really think they have gone threw what you went threw and have all that wisdom? Wisdom is having knowledge and life experience. Not everyone has life experience. But since I have gone threw it I can better relate to those currently dealing with abuse and trying to over come it.  

    Abuse does not discriminate against anyone; race,color of your skin, age, sexual preference, religion, political views etc. Anyone can be a target.

    There are FOUR different types of Abuse.
    1. Neglect
    2. Physical Abuse
    3. Sexual Abuse
    4. Emotional Abuse 

    • Neglect-Is the most common and frequent case of abuse that is often seen.  Some research claims children are more likely to be neglected if they're poor because parents are preoccupied with survival – but wealthy families definitely can and do neglect their kids. Neglect occurs when parents or guardians don't provide food, shelter, safety, supervision, clothes, education, attention, or medical treatment – often it's about what they don't do. This is an abusive relationship.

    • Physical abuse-can be the easiest of all four types of abuse to spot because the clues can be obvious when someone hits, slaps, beats, burns, kicks, or stabs you. However, there may not be evidence when someone grabs your arm, shakes you, or pushes you around – but that's definitely physical abuse. Abusive relationships can be easy to recognize.

    • Sexual abuse-is any form of touching, intercourse, or exploitation of your body. This includes taking pictures you for sexual purposes, asking you to touch someone else's private parts, and making sexual references to your body. Being forced to touch or have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend against your will is sexual abuse. Abusive relationships can make you feel ashamed.

    •  Emotional abuse-is when someone threatens or humiliates you. This includes calling you names, putting you down, insulting you, or breaking your things. Control is a huge part of emotional abuse and involves chronic anger, jealousy, accusations, and distrust. This type of abuse is the hardest to spot because the injuries aren't physical or immediately visible. Emotional abuse can be mistaken for passionate or intense love. Abusive relationships don't always involve physical violence.

    11 warning signs of emotional abuse:

    1. Constant phone calls, text-messages, e-mails, IMs, etc. to check up on you (harrassment)
    2. Extreme jealousy when you talk to or spend time with other people
    3. Name-calling or putting you down, either when you're alone or with other people.
    4. Behavior that you have to apologize or make excuses for.
    5. Statements like, "I can't live without you. If you leave me, I'll kill myself."
    6. You feel depressed, anxious, and unhappy in your relationship.
    7. You're scared to upset or make your partner angry.
    8. You've seen your partner hurt or talk down to other people.
    9. You're down on yourself, or even hate yourself, especially when you're together.
    10. You lie about the bruises or cuts you have.
    11. You don't spend as much time with your friends, and you feel isolated.

        Abuse is never okay, there is no excuse for it what so ever. Do not blame yourself. People have choices and are in control of their own actions. So to tell yourself that it is your fault he/she is abusing you please get that out of your head now. It is not. there are other methods that can be used to deal with anger issues. I used to blame myself. And come up with as many excuses as possible to justify his aggression. If you are in this situation or know someone in this situation. Staying quiet and not doing anything about it is the worst crime. Because the question that pops up is "What if" or "If I had only..." You do not want to wait until it is too late. You can not erase what has been done. So it is better to act now, risking the person hating you than to risk either your life or a friends life. Like in the NYC Transit Subways "See Something, Say Something". You are never alone to, just remember that. 

    Links to read about Abuse

    (State Central Register) at 1-800-342-3720 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting              1-800-342-3720

    This link provides everything you need to know:

    Tuesday, July 13, 2010

    My family

    My family who I have missed so much. So many memories with them all. There goes my grandfather and the next genenration my nephew Jesiah William Miranda. Every minute spent with my family means the world to me.

    "Families are the compass that guide us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter".-- Brad Henry

    EOS Lipbalm x3

    So on July 6th I let to North Carolina w/ my 15 year old cousin to see my sister and then head out to Florida with them to celebrate my nephews 1st birthday over in Port St. Lucie FL. While my cousin Amanda and I were at the airport we stumbled upon this beauty shop at JFK airport. Now my cousins and I are fanatics when it comes to lipgloss. Like seriously that is something we waste alot of money on. It's more of a NEED than a WANT for me. I'm sorry but I can not deal with crusty looking lips. That is not attractive to me at all. So browsing threw the shelves I came upon this odd looking lipbalm. It looked interesting plus it just caught my eye. Never really seen a lip balm that looked like this. So she and I purchased it. And let me tell you, It was worth the $3.49. I love the way it applys smoothly on my lips. It does not leave a greasy sticky surface. I don't need to blot my lips. Nope none of that. I urge you to go out and purchase it. They sell these at walgreens. I am making sure to go and pick up all flavors. Try them and let me know what you think.

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    •Shea butter & vitamin E

    •Smoothes on clear

    •New smooth sphere precisely glides on to lips

    •Twist-off top





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    Thursday, July 1, 2010

    D.I.V.A.S IN CHARGE x 2

    I just want to thank everyone who has been so loving and supportive of my dream. Something I have been praying about and wanting to fullfill. And finally making it a reality. After much thought I decided that you can not always expect and depend on people to help you get places in life. Tagging along or piggybacking off somewhere else's work. Seeing everyone else me flourish in their own achievements, create career paths for themseleves, making their dreams come true at first discouraged me. In no way did I envy those people I was extremely happy to see my friends succeed. But I also kept second guessing myself asking when was it going to be my turn to change lives? To leave my imprint in this world.

    I always said that when I am called home to be with the Lord, when I am no longer present here on earth , at my funeral I want people to speak of the amazing things I did while I was alive. About how many lives I have impacted, that because of me I sparked a change. I did not want to have a funeral where only my parents and few family members showed up and there was not much to speak on at my viewing, that is absolutely terrible.

    I want to change the world. Since I was little I knew that is something I wanted to do, something I had to do. It became a need more than a want. I felt compelled in my spirit all my life that I was destined for greatness, to help others, to save lives.

    After constant prayer and consulting with people's opinions that I valued someone said something to me that woke me up and I mean woke me up instantly. My eyes w  i  d  e  n  e  d when they said these words to me. "You need to write your own ticket in life". From that point on thats where my determination began. I have not slept or stopped since. Every day I am working on this , writitng down ideas/thoughts, researching online, seeking advice of others, praying etc.

    You have to want something so bad to make it happen. And its clear that saying and doing or two completely seperate things. I can say a thousand times that I love you, a thousand and two times a day that I love you but if I never show it is that believable to you? No it is not. Saying and doing go hand in hand. You say something and to make it real , to make it happen, to make it tangible you have to take action and do what you need to do to make it real. It's simple. It's simple because  nothing should discourage you or keep you from your dreams. And if so the only person to blame is yourself no one else. In life many at times we need to fight for what we want. In order to get something we never had we must do something we have never done before. Step out of own comfort zone plenty at times. But I promise you if you do that you will have an a m a z i n g outcome.

    && now here is the site for DIVAS IN CHARGE
    it's not completely finished but for now it will do
    until everything else starts kicking off
    I am truely excited and proud of myself
    and to see that in my parents eyes, that itself is the most rewarding thing